Day 37: Please all, and you will please none
More than once, you will find yourself looking over your shoulder, self-conscious, about how your actions will look to others.
Every person want to be admired and appreciated for their many capabilities, intelligence, beauty and their, amazing personality.
When we start to solely rely on what other people think of us, and we make their opinion key to our welbeing, it becomes destructive. We start moulding our lives to fit other people’s expectations.
It can be worrying. let me share Aesops fable just to show you how hard it is to please people. You certainly will not and if you try, you end up in destruction and you end up being passive.
A man, his son and his donkey
A Man and his son were once going with their Donkey to market. As they were walking along by its side a countryman passed them and said: ‘You fools, what is a Donkey for but to ride upon?’
So the Man put the Boy on the Donkey and they went on their way. But soon they passed a group of men, one of whom said: ‘See that lazy youngster, he lets his father walk while he rides.’
So the Man ordered his Boy to get off, and got on himself. But they hadn’t gone far when they passed two women, one of whom said to the other: ‘Shame on that lazy lout to let his poor little son trudge along.’
Well, the Man didn’t know what to do, but at last he took his Boy up before him on the Donkey. By this time they had come to the town, and the passers-by began to jeer and point at them. The Man stopped and asked what they were scoffing at. The men said: ‘Aren’t you ashamed of yourself for overloading that poor donkey of yours and your hulking son?’
The Man and Boy got off and tried to think what to do. They thought and they thought, till at last they cut down a pole, tied the donkey’s feet to it, and raised the pole and the donkey to their shoulders. They went along amid the laughter of all who met them till they came to Market Bridge, when the Donkey, getting one of his feet loose, kicked out and caused the Boy to drop his end of the pole. In the struggle the Donkey fell over the bridge, and his fore-feet being tied together he was drowned.
‘That will teach you,’ said an old man who had followed them:
‘Please all, and you will please none.’
People will love you and they will also hate you. None of this have anything to do with you. Make your choices and live them, taking full responsibility for all your decisions.