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Own Your Average: Serenity to accept the things I cannot change

An incredible piece of scripture goes like this, “God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.” There lies so much wisdom in those words that majority of us never fathom.

I will share my thought about these words more so the idea that there are somethings we would love to be the other way round but they cannot be and we can only accept them as they are, at least for now.  The question to ask is, is accepting our state of affairs okay? Would this be tantamount to being a mediocre?

Something phenomenal will happen when you own your average, when you accept. When you own your average, you start to recognize that no one is thinking about you quite as much as you think they are.

Yes, you heard it. We are living in an era that I would consider crazy! Technology and innovations are making sci-fi movies appear real. It is so entrenched in our society and our daily lives that it is so hard to reminisce what the world was like before all technological innovations we are seeing now.

“God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”

The Holy Book (Bible)


Although we are grateful to the minds that have been so innovative, one of the shortcoming of technology is the rise of what you would call the need for instant gratification and rising competition among ourselves. With the rise of social media sites such as Facebook and Instagram, where people are displaying how their life is by use of edited images and videos. This has made it easy to fall to the temptation of comparing ourselves with our colleagues who we feel are doing better than we are, this breeds competition with an attempt to outshine each other. The downside, we lose our magic when we do that.

Therefore, we need to own our average as people.  In psychology, the phrase acceptance is very common. When you are going a difficult time like grieving, the most important thing is to accept the status you are in and that way, you are likely to cope with future crises in a different way and view them from a different perspective. According to Psychology today, Acceptance does not mean minimizing the significance of what happened or how you are feeling about it. It simply means being willing to acknowledge what is, without resisting or denying it. In our lives, when we fail to own our average, accept reality of where we are, we create suffering where there is already pain. When we do not own our average, we create confusion where there can be clarity and anguish where there can be peace. This stands in our way of becoming.

Are you exceptional?

We all have our own strengths and weaknesses. However, the fact is, most of us are pretty average at most things we do. Even if you are truly exceptional at one thing, say mathematics, or design or public speaking; Chances are you are average or below average at most other things. That is just the reality of life. To turn out to be truly great at something, you have to commit time and energy to it. In addition, because we all have restricted or limited time and energy, few of us ever become remarkable at more than one thing, if anything at all.

Believing that you are extraordinary will get you trapped in a fictional kind of life. Accepting yourself is more than just the awareness of who you are. It unshackles you from social pressure and supports you to become who you want to be, the best description of yourself.

What do I do now?

Embrace where you are, start owning your average by doing the following there things

  1. Define your own measure of success. Success is a relative word and there is no absoluteness. Be able to measure your own success based on where you are.
  2. Avoid Equating Yourself to others. When you compare or equate to others, you stop looking inside. You stop recognizing and appreciating your own progress or areas to improve on.
  3. Do not be blinded by being perfect, be your very best. Avoid tagging or labeling yourself. Do not allow other people to label you either. You are who you are. You are distinct. You do not need to be defined as successful by others to feel assertive and confident about your potential. People expect us not to have flaws; we cannot be perfect all the time.

As you work hard to become, own your average. Commit to it and let it be magical!

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