New year and the tale of unmet resolutions. What to do?
This is the period of the year most people start reworking on their new year resolutions and others dread the fear of not being able to achieve or work on the resolutions they have set. I have found myself lacking the zeal and energy to pursue resolutions made past the first month of the year, you begin with so much enthusiasm, so much energy and determination to achieve that objective but somehow along the way, the energy fizzle out and you start looking forward to Christmas and again set resolutions and the cycle starts all over again.
One of the major causes of failure to pursue resolutions is the unwillingness to take the time to determine your true goals. It is also a very misunderstood practice.
There are several reasons some never set goals which among others include
- Some have not discerned the joy that goal-setting yields.
- Some have not been showed to write these goals down with clearness.
- Some are frightened of possible failure. there should be no guilt or negative feelings of not achieving it!
- Some fail to set goals because remembrances of previous failures frighten them. Possibly their goals were too irrational.
28 For which of you, intending to build a tower, sitteth not down first, and counteth the cost, whether he have sufficient to finish it?
29 Lest haply, after he hath laid the foundation, and is not able to finish it, all that behold it begin to mock him,
30 Saying, This man began to build, and was not able to finish.
Goal-setting takes time, self-restraint, bravery and patience. My formulae for setting a goal has always been to write down my big goal on a piece of paper (Notebook or journal), when you write down your big goal it can be frustrating especially when you know it is hard to achieve it. Do not give up, rather break the big goal into small sizeable goals (Just like the chocolate bar) and start working on small daily objectives. The beauty of this is that it is easy to achieve them and this motivates you. Small gains lead you to eventually achieve the big goal.
In Proverbs 16:9 we are told: “We should make plans… counting on God to direct us,”. Proverbs 14:8 says: “The wise man looks ahead…”
You must decide and craft for yourself what you really want out of life, prioritize what you need to pursue now. Nobody else can decide for you. If you do not care what happens to your life, no one else will.
As a reminder, not all goals are worth pursuing even though they appear easy and favorite. Read my next blog to know which wall to hook your ladder on.